How to Choose Your Toi et Moi Ring
The toi et moi setting features two stones placed side by side on a single band. The name is French for "you and me," and the design has been a symbol of romantic commitment since Napoleon gave one to Josephine in the 18th century. Here is what to think about before you choose yours.
Stone Shape Combinations
The beauty of a two-stone engagement ring is the contrast. Mixing shapes creates visual tension that feels intentional and modern. Oval and pear is the most popular pairing right now. Oval and emerald cuts work beautifully for someone who wants something more architectural. Matching shapes, such as two ovals or two rounds, creates symmetry and a more classic look.
If you prefer a more traditional setting with a single focal stone, explore our three stone engagement rings for a past, present and future alternative.
Stone Size
The two stones do not need to match in size. A larger centre stone with a smaller accent stone creates a clear focal point. Equal-sized stones create a bold, balanced look that sits flat and wears comfortably.
Metal Choice
White gold (14k or 18k) keeps the focus on the stones and suits both warm and cool skin tones. Rose gold adds a romantic warmth that works especially well with oval and pear cuts. Platinum is the most durable option and holds its colour long-term without replating.
Moissanite vs Lab Diamond
Both offer outstanding brilliance at a fraction of the cost of a mined diamond. Moissanite has more fire and is slightly more affordable. Lab diamonds are chemically identical to mined diamonds and carry the traditional weight of the word. Both are ethically sourced and come with our lifetime warranty. Browse our full range of moissanite engagement rings to explore all available styles.
Custom Orders
Every ring in this collection is made to order. Stone shape, metal, karat, and stone size are all customisable. If you have a specific combination in mind, reach out directly at info@ringcometrue.com. View rings ready to go in our sale and ready to ship collection for faster delivery.